Lins e Silva lectures on parental alienation "syndrome"

David Goldman and his supporters, as well as many commentators have expressed concerns that the Brazilian family has exercised enormous mind control over Sean Goldman and that the parental alienation he's experienced will create some difficulties for him in adjusting to life back in the United States. To get an idea of just how capable, how ruthless the Lins e Silva family might be in using parental alienation in this case, watch this 10-minute segment of a lecture delivered by Joao Paulo Lins e Silva, a lawyer specializing in family law in Rio de Janeiro. Lins e Silva delivered this lecture at a conference at The Hague. Then imagine him tutoring Bruna Goldman and her Brazilian mother in the techniques of parental alienation.

For the record Joao Paulo Lins e Silva is the father of Paulo Lins e Silva, also a family law attorney. The younger Lins e Silva married Bruna Goldman in Brazil even though she wasn't divorced from David. Below is Part I of "Parental Alienation Syndrome", available at YouTube. [Lins e Silva has to say that some folks at his luncheon table educated him about not calling this "a syndrome" anymore.]

Scary people . . . let's hope for wheels up in Brazil soon.

Comments

[clau]

the bla-bla is him talking about himself and saying hello to the audience.Yes he´s a lawyer, but also a person too, and likes Sean as a grandfather.Lucky and Nolucky Sean!So many people want him, but wat does realy Sean wants?

[Jeanne M Hannah]

Clau from Brazil: Are you part of a kidnapping cartel? Do you really believe that people can take children that don't belong to them and keep them . . . keep them so long that the children don't remember their real parent? Sean was in Brazil because he was kidnapped. Judge Pinto said in his decision in June 2008 that Lins e Silva's wrongful retention of Sean was "a second kidnapping." You can read it here. http://tinyurl.com/lsfa8k

After a stay of Judge Pinto's decision, Supreme Court Chief Justice Gilmar Mendes affirmed it and ordered that Sean be immediately returned to his father.

Now Sean is where he belongs . . . with his biological father.

I am glad that Sean's grandfather likes him. Perhaps he can love Sean enough to allow him to heal from the parental alienation that he -- the grandfather -- has, in part, helped to accomplish.

[craig schultz]

"Wat does Sean realy want"? Probably to be raised among the literate. This case has shown what a third rate banana republic Brazil is without a single distinguished university and no intellectual tradition. This regretful incident should serve to silence Brazilians on the international stage. Let's not forget the sage words of a great statesman: "Brazil is not a serious country."

[Steven Alderman]

"Wat does Sean realy want"?

This is a child who is nine years old. He has had little or no "significant connection" with the United States in the last five of those nine years.

During the years he has spent in Brazil, you can bet your bottom that he has been showered with gifts and praises and more material love than many of us will experience in a lifetime. Furthermore, you can also bet that he has been systematically and repeatedly programmed to believe that the parties from the United States are people who are acting in ways contrary to his interests. And that is putting it mildly.

I applaud Mr. Goldman's position in taking the high road, in pledging to foster a continuing and meaningful relationship between this boy and his former captors.

Make no mistake, this relationship should be closely monitored, as the minor child does not see the Brazilian parties as captors, but as loving family members. Likewise, the Brazilian parties will no doubt see themselves as victims; as such the communication you can expect to see from them will not be supportive and loving- you can expect to see messages akin to "We love you, and hang in there, we will find a way to get you through this".

So, again the question- "Wat does Sean realy want"? Does it matter? Is it relevant? HE HAS BEEN THE VICTIM OF A TERRIBLE ACTION, ONE FOR WHICH HE MAY NEVER FULLY RECOVER. The question should be- is Sean in any state of mind, at nine years old, to be making a decision that would stay with him for the rest of his life?

Sean wants to go to Brazil. Sean wants the cameras turned off. Sean wants to play stickball with his friends. Sean wants what every child his age wants- to be "normal".

The price to pay for such normalcy, in my opinion, is too great. The seriousness of criminal kidnapping would be trivialized. The foundation of family law would be turned on its ear with new trends toward the disregard of civility and the inherent birth-rights of every child to experience a parent's love.

And this young boy, whom my heart aches for, will be continually denied the help he is so desperately going to need- for the rest of his life.

[Michael Kitchen]

It is indeed sad when we hear the wicked in this world try to justify the sinful acts of themselves and of their friends when there can be no justification. International kidnapping, psychological torture, underhanded legal maneuvering and thinly-veiled blackmail in the Brazilian press cannot be excused.

It is shocking that such people as the Lins e Silva's can have the sort of influence they wield. Such a situation cannot exist without a degradation in the moral fiber of the environment in which they maneuver. That money was involved, even at the highest levels of the supreme judiciaries, is clearly evidenced by the fact that only particular judges were involved with the setbacks of international jurisprudence.

This is indeed an eye-opening experience to all peoples, and it clearly defines the need to be increasingly cautious and hesitant in becoming involved in foreign countries and their peoples. There is clearly no positive influence coming from the religious leaders of these lands, else things would be different and public outrage would exist right in their own neighborhoods. When selfish desires are not controlled by religious or national leaders, who will be able to keep such desires in check? We have read of no formal outrage over these acts in the press of Brazil, as even these are afraid of the truth. The crocodile tears of the in-laws and step-father only stand as stark reminders of how the personal wants of these individuals clearly overshadow the needs and rights of others, while their minds are controlled by their own selfish emotions.

We have enough trouble at home; we don't need to become involved in the lawless landscape of these alien mindsets. As much as one may wish to be involved with a foreign national, the intelligent person should recognize the need to think twice. Especially if there are going to be children involved. We have here, in this story, a monumental reminder of the ramifications of international relations.