A client sent me a link today to an article that seems very appropos in many divorces where domestic abuse, including physical, emotional and economic abuse are occurring. Often, it's not until the divorce is in progress that an abused spouse will recognise or acknowledge the abuse. Some of the worst abuse come from a narcissist. See here the Mayo Clinic's description of the narcissistic personality disorder.
Often, a narcissist's emotional abuse towards a spouse escalates during divorce. The good news: abused spouses can minimize the impact of abuse by learning what games narcissists play--but only if they learn to recognize the symptoms and learn how to defend against and deflect the abuse.
Read more at Suite101: Emotional Abuse During Divorce: Coping With a Narcissist When a Marriage Breaks Up