The Leadership Council on Child Abuse and Interpersonal Violence has promoted a new concept to distinguish mother's protective actions from what abusers do. It is called Domestic Violence by Proxy. You can download a 2 page memo on it from their web site at http://www.leadershipcouncil.org/1/pas/DVP.html The tiny url is http://tinyurl.com/y8j9uxt
The Memo states that some mothers have called what their batterer is doing "parental alienation syndrome [PAS]." PAS has fallen into disfavor among a large segment of the APA and the ABA Family Law Section, largely due to discrediting of the work of Dr. Richard Gardener, who coined the term. Thus, according to the memo, the label can be turned against a custodial parent using it.
In reality, the memo says, what these women are describing from their ex-partners is better termed Domestic Violence by Proxy (DV by Proxy), a term first used by Alina Patterson, author of Health and Healing. DV by Proxy refers to a pattern of behavior which is a parent with a history of using domestic violence or intimidation, uses a child as a substitute when he no longer has access to his former partner. Calling this behavior “parental alienation” is not strong enough to convey the criminal pattern of terroristic behaviors employed by batterers.
Many useful links are found with the memo.
This article was called to my attention by Joan Zorza, JD, the founding editor of the Domestic Violence Report and Sexual Assault Report. Zorza was a 10-year board member of the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence; Liaison, American Bar Association Commission on Domestic Violence; Former Senior Attorney, National Battered Women's Law Project of the National Center on Women and Family Law. She no longer represents clients. Thank you Joan for the heads up.